![]() ![]() For example, if she begins to suspect that you’re being unfaithful, I think it’s tempting to fail to adequately reassure her. Would he use dread game on his agree in theory, but in practice I think there is great temptation to go too far if trying to apply dread game. Would he instruct his Church to be faithful? Yes. Would Jesus call out sin in his Church? Absolutely. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. However, this is not consistent with husbands loving their brides as Christ loves his church – no matter how unfaithful the church is, Jesus does not give nor permit any impression that he himself might be unfaithful.įor example, when the wife finally gets around to noticing the lack of requests and then asks for sex, will the dread gamer accept? I think it’s tempting to come up with some excuses of your own, even though this is just as sinful as her rejections had been. I agree in theory, but in practice I think there is great temptation to go too far if trying to apply dread game. The moral problem with Dread Game as (generally defined) isn’t the dread, it is the mechanism typically used to create the dread. ![]() Take good care of that man, or some other woman will! Likewise, Dread Game is loving when practiced by a mother on her married daughters, as Mentu’s mother did: Ceasing to (inadvertently) provide your wife a sense of comfort in her sin isn’t sinful, and it is in fact loving. Cheating on your wife, carrying on inappropriately with other women, or threatening to cheat on your wife isn’t consistent with the role of a Christian husband. He also isn’t sinning or encouraging his wife to sin by no longer begging for sex. A husband causing his wife to feel discomfort about her sin isn’t unloving, it is in fact the opposite. Note that a husband using radio silence game hasn’t violated the two part test I included in Headship Game. So worried he found somebody who actually wants sex with him. Always with the excuses….too tired, too sweaty, on my period, maybe coming down with a cold…now he stopped asking. My wife found an example of radio silence working on the women’s confession site Scary Mommy yesterday: In the meantime, TM, do not ask that woman for sex. As Cane Caldo advised in Tacomaster Desires Steadfast Love: It isn’t guaranteed to work, but it is hard to imagine it would work worse than continuing to beg for sex. But even without the husband cheating, sudden radio silence could be a very effective tool. Vox has clarified that just because he pointed out that having sex with other women would likely have been more effective, that doesn’t mean he would advise a married man to do so. But he chose not to do that, instead he plunged once more into the gap to try to salvage what looks like a fairly hopeless cause. It would be much more effective for him to have simply gone radio silent and had sex with other women while she’s gone the sexually hypercompetitive nature of women would likely have her sensing his subsequent indifference to her deprivation upon her return. ![]() This spreadsheet isn’t indicative of immaturity, but rather desperation combined with a desire to save his marriage while honoring his wedding vows. (Personally, I doubt he will, he’ll probably contact her too soon, apologize profusely, buy her flowers, and they’ll be back to their old routine within a week.) But what he has inadvertently done is to introduce Mortification Game to a worldwide audience, Mortification Game being a subset of Dread Game.ĭread Game isn’t for healthy relationships, but it can temporarily improve unhealthy ones and buy them time to fix things. And since in women, defensive crouches are followed by instinctively sexual responses, if he maintains his frame, the chances are that she’ll return from her trip more sexually willing than before. ![]() The fact is that she’s feeling incredibly humiliated and defensive. Vox weighed in on the sex denial spreadsheet that has gone viral with his post Mortification Game: ![]()
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